How Judgement Can Impact You

In February of 2017, I purchased a bright red 2017 Honda Rebel 300. (named Hankster 1.0)  Once I took delivery of the bike in May, it was transported to Mission Cycle in Angus  Ontario so that Todd could work his magic of modifying it for me so that I could ride with one (left) hand.

The modifications were actually very minor – a finger throttle and centrifugal force clutch which disengages the engine based on rpms was installed, followed by my front brake being attached to the front left lever which is the clutch for everyone else.

I took my training in early July and successfully passed the evaluation, losing only 3 of 12 points, and as a result obtained my M2 license.

I began to ride as much as possible.  Many of my adventures are captured in articles that I have written for The Riders Mag which will also be posted as blogs in the near future.

Ang sitting on her Rebel
Ang on 2017 Honda Rebel waving

 

I also joined several motorcycle groups on Facebook, one of which is called Motorcycle Society (Ontario).  Through this group, I met many riders, many of whom became friends.  I was fortunate enough to also ride with several during the summer and quickly came to learn the true meaning of community.

In August, I purchased a Honda Shadow Aero 750 (Hankster 2.0) as I felt that I was ready for more power.  Once again, the bike was transported to Mission Cycle for modifications similar to the Rebel.

As soon as I jumped on the bike for the first time, my husband Lloyd videoed my experience.  Was I nervous?  Apprehensive?  Doubtful?  Anxious?  YES!!  I even thought about giving up which is something that I never do.

Lloyd quickly convinced me to  persevere which I did and after an hour of practice in a parking lot, he and I were off riding.  Following are a few clips of my first moments on Hankster 2.0:

Ang riding Hankster 2.0 in a parking lot for the first time

Ang practicing on Hankster 2.0 in the parking lot

Once I got home, I was so excited about my day that I shared the video and emotions which had gone through with the motorcycle group on Facebook referred to earlier.  I was overwhelmed by the support extended to me which nearly brought me to (happy) tears until the judgement came from one person…… their comments follow below;

Riding with one hand in itself is very dangerous.  What if a dog ran out in front of you no way you would control the bike with one hand.  Just my opinion.

This is just wrong for a bunch of reasons.  sorry not gonna sugar coat it for you. 

If she were my daughter I would discourage it.

Maybe there is a dynamic there that I don’t know about.  Geez am I the only one who feels this way.  give me a break.  I’m the only one who tells it like it is

I only know how it works for me when I sometimes ride with one hand in a slow zone only and I hit a rough patch on the road it’s kinda scary

What I heard loud and clear in the poster’s words was the following:  If I cannot understand how you accomplish this (riding with 1 hand) then it should not be permitted. 

Everyone is entitled to their opinion – I am fine with that.  I understand that it might be difficult for others to comprehend how something can be accomplished differently than what they might be accustomed to seeing. 

What I am not fine with is someone else’s opinion impeding my ability to do what I want to do. 

I explained to the poster how I successfully passed the evaluation – as a matter of fact, I had already put on 8,000+ kilometers on my Honda Rebel before I purchased my larger bike.

This is how someone’s judgement can impede one’s ability to achieve their dreams.

I invited the poster to ride with me. I am still waiting for them to give me a date/time…..

I am thrilled when I am approached by others asking how I ride.  I was and continue to be touched by how so many encouraged and continue to encourage me to go for my dream.

To me, it all comes back to:  don’t judge people by how they look.

All you have to do is ask.

Until next time!!

 

 

12 Replies to “How Judgement Can Impact You”

  1. Amazing account of what I have witnessed over the last few months. You are an amazing women who faces new challenges with focus and conviction, with a goal in sight, which you master by proving yourself.

    There will always be naysayers in life, but a little courage and determination is life changing!

    Thank you for being a leader, a pioneer, a role model and someone to admire!

    1. Jack, your comments have truly touched my heart. I am thankful to have you in my life – you help me to persevere and keep moving forward!

  2. I envy and admire your courage and determination to follow your dream, a lot of people don’t have the courage or the determination to follow their own dreams so instead they try to deter others from following theirs, please don’t ever let someone push you off you dream road, I wish you everlasting happiness in your journey and always remember…..opinions are like ASSHOLES everybody has one

  3. Hi Ang,
    We all face the judgemental issues at some point of our life. I consider empathy as one of the important traits to understand a particular situation or a person. Some people just give up being judged inappropriately. I appreciate your positive attitude. Couple of years back I joined a program in GTA which was of my interest. I remember the first day,first class when I was sitting with students,all in their twenties. The prof gave us a group project to be completed in the class.There were five groups and no group seemed interested to invite me to be with them as I was in my forties. They judged me on the basis of my age. Finally, the prof asked me to sit with a particular group. I wanted to share my ideas but they simply ignored me, like an outdated technology. I could read in their eyes and behaviour that they were trying to say “a poor old lady”. The time came when prof asked that a student from each group come forward to present the ideas on the given topic. The other four members in my group didn’t have anything to speak about. They were still trying to grasp the topic, searching something related on Internet. I asked them “can I go and present something on behalf of the group”? They first ignored and then whispered, would she be able to??? I stood up, shared my ideas on behalf of the group,the class liked the presentation. They all thanked me and asked “would you join us for the forthcoming group project? They judged me on the basis of my age. I replied them “Do you think I would be able to perform”? There is so much hidden in each person which is hard to be judged…….emotional pain hurts more than the physical one!!

    1. Hi there,

      My experience exactly, accept mine was that I was in my 40’s and started a position with a company where my co-worker was a recent graduate from University. She was very unorganized and misguided, so I came up with ways to prioritize tasks and shared my ideas with her as well as other co-workers. We were able to turn the department around, but it backfired, because my kindness and hard work resulted in me not securing a permanent position. She also made constant comments about some of our co-workers disabilities. If only they had known. I was bullied as a child, so that is probably why I tend to let things go and move on.

  4. Angie, Love your article and the way you are showing all of us that if you really want it: you can..
    I did encounter difficult time when I first moved to Canada. My English was not that great. People judged other because they had an accent. Not speaking the way they did made me an outsider to most. Thinking I could not “get it” I was unable to perform as well as an Englophone. Between FT job rasing a family going to night school. Still.. people always made me repeat.. and it was hard not to blow in their face until one day I said: “would you like me to translate in english for you?” Even though I was speaking English to them. I stood up and made people understand that it’s not because you have an accent that you can not perform a job as well as they do, It made me a stronger and more independent person that i thought i could even been. This was over 20 years ago and unfortunately newcomers still encounter the same attitude. So to all..
    It takes all of us to make Canada and the great country we are. Be tolerant listen you could learn a lot from others.
    And if you have problem to understand Just ask.
    Thanks Angie your determination is an example for so many.
    And keep these articles coming….

    Another woman rider

    1. Thank-you so much for sharing your story. It is very apparent that through perseverance and determination that you too were successful with overcoming challenges. Congratulations and well done! Your kind words are appreciated and I look forward to meeting you on the road some day!

  5. Angie. You show all riders that it’s possible. Difference may the world go round like all differences it will disrupt some .

  6. I hope the BIKER COMMUNITY explained these three letters to you, they are FTW.Enjoy your freedom Angie you are an inspiration to anyone who is trying to move forward and really live life.

    1. Mike, thank-you for taking the time to share your kind words! I am hopeful that by sharing my story, I can help someone else who may be facing challenges and/or obstacles. We need more positive energy – support and encouragement in my opinion. Wind therapy is a great way to move forward! 🙂

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